For example, in total I have 36 students. Some of these students I see only once a week, others I see as much as four times a week! Out of these 36 students, 1 is gay, 14 are women and 21 are men! Or so, I have close contact - very close contact - with men every single day. Be it in their closed office or house - I am face-to-face with men at least 70% of my day - and you know how it is...in the beginning you talk about "verb to be", "how was your day?", "How old are you?", and those "must know" basic questions every teacher has to ask every new student she gets.
After awhile though, the questions change to "How would you describe yourself?", "How was your weekend?", "Are you dating?" and so on... even not having the slightest romantic/sexual interest in the student you still can't help but ask questions that are a bit more personal since the last ones wore out already. And that's basically the way it goes...each time questions get more personal, more intimate, more deep (specially when there is that "click" - and I dont mean "click" refering to romance or anything of the sorts, but yes a friendship kind of thing).
I've had students come tell me how was their weekend, how many girls they went out with, if they took them to bed or not and the dirty details of how it was in bed if they were able to succeed... others ask me for advice on how to make-up with their wife or girlfriend, what underwear to wear on a date, what gift they should buy to give at Valentine's Day, why girls are usually hesitant at giving men oral on the first date, how to find out if a girl is faking an orgasm, what to do to "aliviate the stress" since their wife is pregnant, how to break up with their girlfriend in a decent way...and on it goes.
And with this I also get the rare treat of being able to ask pretty much any question on why guys act the way they do and getting the honest and upfront answers and advice of men from all walks of life. Out of all the many things that involve being a private English teacher I must say that having this opening is by far the best thing in it all.
Since I started getting more and more involved and closer to my students I have also come to understand a whole lot more of what goes in the mind of the male species and some of their most famous traits: why they can't be content with only one woman even when they love that "one woman" they are with (like their present wife!) and end up cheating, why they don't phone the next day or don't answer our messages, the last moment excuses they give to not show up or to get rid of doing something and the reasons that make them give those excuses, what common things a girl does regularly but which makes them grimace and squirm during sex, what are the main "fails" girls do during their first date, what makes them choose into turning the woman into being just a "sex partner" or acctually getting her to becoming the "girlfriend" or even "the wife!" and so on... I never noticed how wrong and misguided the "oh, so common" magazines that us girls read on "1001 Ways to Give Your Man an Orgasm" or "What To Do On Your First Date to Impress The Guy" and such other articles that we are major fans of but that just seem NOT to work when we eventually do try the "tricks of the trade" as they so put it.
Why doesn't it work? The best answer I was able to come to think of (and that made most logic) was that most of those magazines and articles are written by none other than women (or gays) that have no contact with the real male world whatsover and so it's just what comes out of the top of their heads and what they think "could work" if it was a guy doing those things to them. I am not here to say that just because of my constant male companionship all of a sudden I am a "know it all" - not even close! But I do have the link to the "know it all's" and can get their honest advice any time during any day.
And so, after learning and opening my mind to a lot of so called "truths" but that are nothing else other than just "myths" I came to wonder: "Wouldn't other girls like to wake-up and come to find out and know so many things about men that we never even guessed or had the slightest about? Wouldn't it be great if all women could get to know and become smarter in the ways of "dealing with a man" and that way not end up in yet another heartbreak or love disapointment?"
And it was that thought that made me write this post. And so, all dear readers of my "oh so crazy blog" from today on I will post a few of the many, many truths that I have learnt in my constant relationship with men - which are none other than my daily students. I don't claim to have all the truth but if there is any question that you'd like to know on any topic, let me know - if I still haven't talked about it with one of my students - I will make it my task to do so and then post here the answers that I recieved firsthand. Hope you learn a thing or two, and if you come to realize that you already "know it all" then tudoos to you - you can now enjoy the story that comes along with it without thinking how many times you did exactly "What Not To Do!!!" Until soon... going off to learn something new with Jones and Sexual Fantasy Student!!!
Disclaimer: ALL NAMES ARE FICTITIOUS - dates, places and events are FACTS!!!
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